Bisexual and proud
Bisexual, Autistic and Proud: In Celebration of Bi Public presence Week
Last week was Bi Visibility Week; a glorious time in which the purple unicorns become evident to the non-purple, non-unicorn masses. I am one of those purple unicorns. And no matter how hard I prance, and flick my horn, and toss my mane, sometimes it still feels as though the only thing I’m visible to are my fellow unicorns and a brick wall.
I first began identifying as pansexual when I was seventeen, and, no matter how many times the ‘this is a phase’ and ‘one day you will pick a side’ assertions were drilled against me, I am still here eight years later proclaiming the same thing.
The only difference is that these days I am more likely to use ‘queer’ to refer to myself than ‘bisexual’ (hello, title of the blog!). I don’t know when that particular transition happened – maybe it’s because, having never had a partnership, I felt somehow unworthy of taking ‘bisexual’ as my moniker; or maybe its because the very essence of the synonyms ‘queer’, difference and weirdness, just sums me up a little better than ‘bisexual’. For whatever reason, it was a innate progression, and I’m cozy draping myself in both
Bi Visibility Day, which falls on September 23rd each year, is a excellent day to be super duper proud of organism you.
So it's no surprise that when we asked bisexual folks to disseminate some reasons why they're proud, their responses were downright inspiring:
1."I’m proud to be bi because I know that this is valid and I yearn other people to comprehend that I’m not just confused or questioning — I’m me."
2."I have no hard time in choosing who to LOVE. 💞"
3."A proud Bisexual here, not afraid to break boundaries. My love, motivation and passion for life has expanded since coming out! I wouldn’t change a thing."
4."I’m proud to be bi because it’s a huge part of my identity and how I love — and I’m always going to be proud to be me!"
5."I am valid, no matter the gender of who I’m dating, and I am PROUD!"
6."A classmate texted me one day saying that me being so out encouraged her to become more open with herself and she came out to her parents. I just want to tell you all out there: Even if you aren’t accepted by who you are by one person, your fight for equality can inspire those around you."
7."I won't consume my time trying to hide, I'm proud to be bi."
8."I’m bi and t I’m Bi and I’m Proud
As a happy-go-lucky guy with a devil-may-care attitude, the very first time I experimented with another guy was something I didn’t quite dwell on. It was me being the impulsive me I usually am. It was freeing, liberating, exciting, exhilarating. The possibility of introducing another dimension to my experience was much more than I could bear, and before I knew it, I was swiping right on both girls and guys. It didn’t perceive wrong. In fact, it felt quite intriguing. With these new insights, I decided to give dating website another try. The “not looking for anything earnest but open to anything” kind of dating. Up until that point, my love life had been very simple: the tedious, single phase, a six-month relationship with a teen and the only-looking-for-fun, unattached phase. While not very experienced in the domains of love, in all my years of singlehood, I was still something akin to an counsel columnist to my friends having relationship glitches. All those soaps and dramas I used to survey with my mom as a kid came in handy after all. My number one advice for those in search of love was to never actively seek it. Second, to never get yourself into a relationship if you’re not al
Being autistic, bisexual and proud
I am proud to be autistic and be a member of the LGBTQ+ group. Although, it’s taken me a long time to understand how I fit within these groups and to feel confident organism part of them.
In the last two years I have learnt so much more about myself and grown in confidence. Feeling accepted by the neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ communities has a big part to play in that.
Understanding myself
I was diagnosed with autism when I was 13, but no one explained what it meant. At the time, there was very little about how autism can submit differently to the representative 'male' stereotype. There were very few autistic females in the media and I couldn't find any books to explain how the traits of autism might apply to me. As I grew up, this presented challenges, particularly when it came to encountering sex and relationships; understanding my body and 'feelings' didn't come naturally to me. This scared me. I felt untrue, like I was somehow subhuman, and not great enough. I also start the idea of attraction confusing - I was attracted to girls and boyswas that okay? And even if it was - then came the big question of what even wa
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I’m Bi and I’m Proud
As a happy-go-lucky guy with a devil-may-care attitude, the very first time I experimented with another guy was something I didn’t quite dwell on. It was me being the impulsive me I usually am. It was freeing, liberating, exciting, exhilarating. The possibility of introducing another dimension to my experience was much more than I could bear, and before I knew it, I was swiping right on both girls and guys. It didn’t perceive wrong. In fact, it felt quite intriguing. With these new insights, I decided to give dating website another try. The “not looking for anything earnest but open to anything” kind of dating. Up until that point, my love life had been very simple: the tedious, single phase, a six-month relationship with a teen and the only-looking-for-fun, unattached phase. While not very experienced in the domains of love, in all my years of singlehood, I was still something akin to an counsel columnist to my friends having relationship glitches. All those soaps and dramas I used to survey with my mom as a kid came in handy after all. My number one advice for those in search of love was to never actively seek it. Second, to never get yourself into a relationship if you’re not al
Being autistic, bisexual and proud
I am proud to be autistic and be a member of the LGBTQ+ group. Although, it’s taken me a long time to understand how I fit within these groups and to feel confident organism part of them.
In the last two years I have learnt so much more about myself and grown in confidence. Feeling accepted by the neurodivergent and LGBTQ+ communities has a big part to play in that.
Understanding myself
I was diagnosed with autism when I was 13, but no one explained what it meant. At the time, there was very little about how autism can submit differently to the representative 'male' stereotype. There were very few autistic females in the media and I couldn't find any books to explain how the traits of autism might apply to me. As I grew up, this presented challenges, particularly when it came to encountering sex and relationships; understanding my body and 'feelings' didn't come naturally to me. This scared me. I felt untrue, like I was somehow subhuman, and not great enough. I also start the idea of attraction confusing - I was attracted to girls and boyswas that okay? And even if it was - then came the big question of what even wa
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