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Relationship Tips for Gay Men
In , I attempted my first 5-day backpacking trip. It was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Sir Edmund Hillary, the first mountaineer to summit Mt. Everest without supplemental oxygen, once said, “It is not the mountains we conquer but ourselves.” I retain feeling something very similar after my much less significant achievement. I learned that climbing a mountain was much more than a physical feat. The real challenge was cultivating a positive mindset and facing the mental disagree. I felt as if I was conquering myself with every step forward. I knew that if I allowed the self-doubt and inner critic to take over, the next step might head me down the mountain instead of up it. The reward of such function was the camaraderie with my fellow trekkers and the knowledge that challenging tasks are possible with perseverance.
Reflecting on this trial reminds me of what it’s like to tackle the adventure of virtual dating. The prospect of nurturing a romantic relationship can seem quite daunting, but the reward of perseverance and hard work is the deep connection and intimacy we enjoy with our partners.
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AsI think back on the past 24 years of providing couples counseling for gay male relationships, I sometimes get asked what the differences are that I see (in general) in gay male relationships that are (again, in general), different from unbent relationships.
I offer these thoughts to both available and coupled gay men, based on my perspective of what I’ve seen through the years. My experiences and observations as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist might differ from other gay men, and even other gay male therapists, and we always have to be mindful of not indulging in unfair assumptions, stereotypes, or even prejudices. But since making a relationship operate (which I define, in part, as the relationship’s level of satisfaction for each partner and in its overall longevity and subjective “quality” for each partner) is at least in part based on a skills-building process, skills that I believe are required for a lgbtq+ male relationship to both endure (quantity) and thrive (quality). These are the issues that come up repeatedly in couples counseling sessions:
1. Money– Same-sex attracted male couples can own a lot of dispute around money. Statistically, pale men tend to be relatively
Interpersonal Issues Gay Men And Lesbians May Have To Deal With
- Chris MacLeod, MSW
Most of the time when someone feels awkward in a social interaction their sexual orientation isn't that relevant. Most situations are ones everyone has the potential to find difficult. However, there are some social struggles that are unique to people who are same-sex attracted Or to put it more accurately, there are some social struggles that are unique to male lover men and lesbians because we live in a society that doesn't fully accept different sexual orientations, and that causes interpersonal complications.
Before I begin I'll note a several things to put the article in context:
- I'm direct myself, though I've always been % in back of LGBT rights. So unlike a lot of the articles on this site that draw from my personal experiences, this one is based on research I've done.
- I'm writing this from the perspective of being gay in developed Western countries. Here LGBT rights still hold a long way to go, but things are better than they've ever been, and living as out is the norm. In most of the world people have to remain closeted their whole lives as a matter of basic safety.
- Many of the points I'll cover be
8 Dating Tips for Lgbtq+ Men from a Lgbtq+ Psychotherapist
Originally published on
Looking for a long phrase relationship?
Here are some tips based on my eighteen years as a psychotherapist working exclusively with lgbtq+ men, and as Founder of the Gay Therapy Center. These suggestions are also informed by clinical research on relationships as well as my personal research as a recent dater.
Men Are Avoidant
Generally speaking, women are socialized to connect. Men, not so much. That’s why they are so lonely.
So you’ll increase your chances of success if you grab a chance on opening up, being real, and a just little more vulnerable than your average gay male dater. That doesn’t mean spilling your guts on the first date. But can you stretch a little and be the first to be more authentic?
Yes, it’s risky and scary. Successful dating is defined by risk. That’s why so many people avoid it.
Dick Size
If you read and watch social media targeted to gay men you get the sense that all we care about is big dicks and pecs. While these posts may get our attention in the digital age, and make good funds for advertisers, they execute not correlate as principal features of a durable relationship
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