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Ever wanted to know the secrets to becoming a power bottom? Want to know how to observe after the bottoms in your life? Curious to give bottoming a strive but not sure how to begin?
We can support you become a improved bottom! Here are some quick bottoming tips and tricks from ACON’s peer-workshop Booty Basics.
1. Lube
The arse does not produce its own lubrication.
This means that lube is really, really important for any anal play. First, to interrupt damage to the internal lining of your arse. Second, to make bottoming (and topping!) more pleasurable. And third, to facilitate protect it from infections.
Remember to use water or silicon-based lubes, as oil-based lubes can damage condoms.
2. You
The second principle is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and emotional aspects such as making sure you undergo safe, making sure there is consent, that you feel comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
Remember, sex is best for everyone if all the people involved are motivated by trying to maximise everyone’s pleasure safely. You can’t be a good girlfriend and you can’t exposure pleasure for yourself if you’re stressed or uncomfortable (bottom or not!).
3. R Life on the Bottom
I enjoyed a short-lived career on the bottom. My college boyfriend’s family lived in a duplex on Park Avenue, where we’d often slip away on weekends. Meals were rich and plentiful — foie gras, profiteroles, double magnums of Riesling, etc. — all of which I eagerly imbibed. Following one such decadent feast my freshman year, when we were still very much in the honeymoon phase of our first gay affair , Dan and I retired to his bedroom and got to work. For weeks we’d been easing into penetration with me on the bottom, but the pain had proven prohibitive. Also at act was acute paranoia of involuntary defecation, something I’d been assured was a common, yet unwarranted, relate to of bottoms.
Presumably though, most surveyed hadn’t recently gorged on three helpings of fattened goose liver. It’s unyielding to look someone in the eye after shitting their childhood bed — let alone date them for seven more years afterward — but that’s exactly what happened. What didn’t happen — and hasn’t since, really — was me back on the bottom.
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Sexplain It: I Love Entity Gay, but I Detest Doing Anal
I'm Zachary Zane, a sex writer and ethical manwhore (a desire way of saying I sleep with a lot of people, and I'm very, very open about it). Over the years, I've had my reasonable share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and a bunch of other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner," because you know that already. Inquire me anything—literally, anything—and I will gladly Sexplain It.
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Dear Sexplain It,
I’m gay but have zero desire to have anal sex with more men. I’ve topped and bottomed a several times with a several different guys and contain never enjoyed it. Honestly, I can’t stop thinking about shit when doing anal. I’m terrified I’m going to accidentally poop on a guy, and when I top, I’m worried I’m going to get shat on. It takes me out of the moment. But I really like giving and receiving blowjobs. That r 
Sexual health for lgbtq+ and bisexual men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to pass on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps defend against HIV and lowers the risk of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone novel, you should have an STI and HIV examine every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is important, as some STIs do not result in any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can obtain it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated food and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can show up to 8 weeks after sex and contain tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a complete recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can dodge getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after se
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Life on the Bottom
I enjoyed a short-lived career on the bottom. My college boyfriend’s family lived in a duplex on Park Avenue, where we’d often slip away on weekends. Meals were rich and plentiful — foie gras, profiteroles, double magnums of Riesling, etc. — all of which I eagerly imbibed. Following one such decadent feast my freshman year, when we were still very much in the honeymoon phase of our first gay affair , Dan and I retired to his bedroom and got to work. For weeks we’d been easing into penetration with me on the bottom, but the pain had proven prohibitive. Also at act was acute paranoia of involuntary defecation, something I’d been assured was a common, yet unwarranted, relate to of bottoms.
Presumably though, most surveyed hadn’t recently gorged on three helpings of fattened goose liver. It’s unyielding to look someone in the eye after shitting their childhood bed — let alone date them for seven more years afterward — but that’s exactly what happened. What didn’t happen — and hasn’t since, really — was me back on the bottom.
• Read next: Bottoming Emojis, Explained
Maybe that’s why I’ve maintained an enviable respect for men and women who regularly obtain fucke
Sexplain It: I Love Entity Gay, but I Detest Doing Anal
I'm Zachary Zane, a sex writer and ethical manwhore (a desire way of saying I sleep with a lot of people, and I'm very, very open about it). Over the years, I've had my reasonable share of sexual experiences, dating and sleeping with hundreds of people of all genders and orientations. In doing so, I've learned a thing or two about navigating issues in the bedroom (and a bunch of other places, TBH). I'm here to answer your most pressing sex questions with thorough, actionable advice that isn't just "communicate with your partner," because you know that already. Inquire me anything—literally, anything—and I will gladly Sexplain It.
To submit a question for a future column, pack out this form.
Dear Sexplain It,
I’m gay but have zero desire to have anal sex with more men. I’ve topped and bottomed a several times with a several different guys and contain never enjoyed it. Honestly, I can’t stop thinking about shit when doing anal. I’m terrified I’m going to accidentally poop on a guy, and when I top, I’m worried I’m going to get shat on. It takes me out of the moment. But I really like giving and receiving blowjobs. That r Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to pass on a sexually transmitted infection (STI). Using a condom helps defend against HIV and lowers the risk of getting many other STIs. If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone novel, you should have an STI and HIV examine every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is important, as some STIs do not result in any symptoms. Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo. Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can obtain it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated food and drink. Symptoms of hepatitis A can show up to 8 weeks after sex and contain tiredness and feeling sick (nausea). Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a complete recovery within a couple of months. MSM can dodge getting hepatitis A by: .
Sexual health for lgbtq+ and bisexual men
Hepatitis A